Friends, are the family we make for ourselves

My life is rich in many ways: I have food to eat, a roof over my head, a family who love and support me and a whole bunch of incredible friends, who have become an extension of my family. It’s very easy to get caught up thinking about what we don’t have and all the things that are wrong in our lives. We do not see what is right in front of us. I now choose to concentrate on what I do have, and cherish my memories of the things I no longer have.

I’m lucky enough to have the most amazing family of friends that anyone could wish for. I am incredibly blessed with the people that I have in my life, and I thank god for them every single day. Without them, my life would be very different.

This family that I have come to know and love have had such an impact on my life. We do not need to speak every day, we may only see each other a few times a year – but we are connected. We may be far apart, but we always know that we matter and are loved.

In the past I have been a bit narrow-minded when it come to the definition of family. I have always seen family as “blood” relatives – people I am connected to by DNA. In recent years, with everything that I have faced, I have realised that “family” is not only blood. It is those people who are there in the good times as well as the bad. They put up with your foul moods, your bad jokes and your warped sense of reality. They support your choices even when they don’t agree with them, because they know it makes you happy. They constantly surprise you and are there when you need it the most.

We choose who we do and do not have in our lives. We can change the course of our lives anytime we choose. We set our intentions for each day, and then we go out and make them happen.

My friends are my family and they are the ones that will be with me through everything. These friends enrich who I am and encourage and support me to live my best life.

We don’t always say how much we value the people in our lives, and we should. Never miss an opportunity to tell someone you love them, and how much they mean to you.

Inspired by and dedicated to my family: Sharmain Porteous, Louise Reddey, Natalie Brown, Liat Golan, Amesha Phillips, Ria Peskett, Sarah Akehurst, Amy Shakles, Niya Davis. Every one of them has something unique and special and many qualities I love.

To my many friends who have inspired and supported me over the years, and far too many names to mention! You know who you are, I love you too xoxoxo